… for you to truly hear me? What words would you allow to affect you? How often do you give others space to teach you? Listen.
I love reading articles/posts that others write where more often than not, what they say comes in the form of questions versus answers. The reason being, I want to think for myself.
But here’s the catch, you can only be so wise, know so much, and be as good as you are right where you are, right now, period. So should, ‘thinking for one’s self’ be so highly rated? Hold that thought. But here, yet another question: Are you in the headspace to receive?
You may think you’re always in the headspace to receive, to hear, to learn, to ‘change.’ And while that may be true, consider this.
You know those moments when you hear something you’ve heard a hundred times before but for some reason, it just really seems to click this time, or it finally has a profound effect on you?
When you encounter a similar moment, you are truly in a headspace to receive. I have the exact same question as you though, ‘but how do I get that part of me to listen, especially when it seems I don’t have control over my, ‘aha’ moments’?
To that question, I have no answer–wan-wan, sorry. (wink) However, as I think about it, I realize that in a very big way, you or I were able to hear it because we were silent. Think about it.
Being quiet and listening is an underdeveloped skill, especially in the Americas it seems. People, including myself, are often at fault for not actually listening but rather, freak out in our minds while staring silently into the eyes of whoever holds the ‘talking stick.’ Finally, once it’s our turn, we grab the stick, forget most of what he or she said, and proclaim our profound insights or wisdom.
Whoever believes he or she is always right wears wrong’s pretty white mask.
Harsh, but true. Life is too complex to have one perspective that holds universal and timeless truth. That’s not to say that each person’s perspective has no validity, but there is wisdom in taking check of who’s in front of you.
I heard two wise men once say:
“While I have your attention for this short while we want to ask for one favour: take your opinions on the matter we’re about to speak, and leave them at the door. For you to listen and hear us, you have to stop the, ‘I don’t believe x, y, z, and they’re wrong, and I’m right’ kind of chatter that goes on in the mind. Decide only after we speak whether or not you want to hold our opinions. Trust us, the ones you left at the door haven’t gone anywhere, they’re ready for you to pick up and carry on with when we’re done.”
These words have stayed with me. While I am nowhere near perfecting this posture, it has been a great teacher for me, and one that I’ve shared with friends.
Perhaps the answer to, or at least for today, ‘what could I possibly say that would change your life for the better,’ is to listen truly and focus fully on the person speaking to us. Last, do our best not to be right, but to be open to and listen for the unpredictable profundities from others.
Shhhh… can you hear them?
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